Today I had an interview today at work. I spent a lot of time last night figuring out which suit I would wear, which shoes, which tie. The interview wasn't until 4:30 pm so I had all day to sit and worry. I felt too well-dressed, with my conservative pleated suit pants -- pants that I profoundly hate now, and don't understand why I ever purchased, unless I was in some law-induced stupor of backwater menswear conservatism -- and the janitor told me I looked like a Kennedy cousin with my fancy clothes and the apparently boyish swoop of my bangs. The interview itself went really well. I felt like I expressed everything I wanted to, and if I missed anything it's something I never saw coming at all. I didn't know what I didn't know. At the end of the interview after I asked my questions I said, "well, that's it, thank you for coming," and the laugh that I earned seemed to represent how the whole thing went. I got a Chipotle Coke on my way home, stripped out of my suit immediately and read the New Yorker on the couch. Then L and Alice came home and there was a present for me -- Alice had colored a picture on blue construction paper, and in the middle of the page, written in marker in L's steady hand, was: "Nov. 15th."
"I'm pregnant and that's when the baby is due."
Since last summer, we have spent every month (minus two) hoping and praying that we would get pregnant. Each month has been punctuated by a few sad days when these hopes were dashed, days that became cumulatively worse as each month passed. After Alice was conceived practically immediately, this long process of waiting has been difficult. We both went to the doctor to get things checked out and everything seemed to be fine. They told us to be patient, but we (I) are not patient people. I started to worry that we couldn't have another child, and I felt guilty for feeling bad about that when we already have Alice, the greatest blessing of our lives. My first reaction to the news that L was pregnant was that we didn't have to be sad this month.
Today L had been working with Alice to teach her to say "big sister." She hadn't told me in the morning because she didn't want to distract me from today's interview, but the secret had been eating her up since she found out at 2 am last night. Her strength is unbelievable. After she told me we had a family hug that Alice scurried over to join. L had gone on the internet to figure out that November 15th due date; that means we'll have a Thanksgiving-time baby.
I was bursting with the need to tell someone when my parents called to ask about the interview. I successfully managed not to tell them. We went over to John and Anna's to tell them the good news, because I still had to tell someone. They had figured it out -- John opened the door with an expectant look, and I nodded yes. They were so excited for us. John and I had bourbon and we all had some shepherd's pie. After a while we came home (Alice pooped tremendously on the bus ride home, crooning "yucky poop" as some indulgent commuters smiled wanly) and the stress of the day receded.
I can't believe we're about to do this all over again: an impossibly tiny baby, minimal sleep, a new name for a new life. All of our conversations about jobs, moving, childcare seem completely obsolete. Game change! But all those conversations can wait for another day.
If I let myself, I become aware of the meaning and weight of today's news. The capacity for love, the responsibility, the legacy, the growth of our family, the playmate and lifelong friend for Alice. Tonight I can skirt around these ideas and know that soon we'll be thinking about them all the time. But tonight I am still struck by the idea -- L is pregnant. We don't have to be sad this month. And that relief is overwhelming.
Monday, March 05, 2012
Saturday, February 25, 2012
32
The last year was a very good one. It was focused on the rhythms of family and work. Nothing really changed much last year, so I'm looking forward to 32 as an opportunity for change, progress, and growth. The word that keeps popping into my head is: catalyst! It's time for me to catalyze, unless it's time for something else to catalyze me-- I don't even know.
I like birthdays as a chance to reflect on life and consider the many ridiculous blessings I've received. It's a very good day.
Tuesday, February 21, 2012
San Diego Diary
Tuesday - On the first night in the hotel I ordered fish tacos in my room and drank the champagne L had waiting for me for Valentine's Day. I watched "Teen Mom," immediately mystified by how television works on the West Coast. Some things are shown at the same time as back east....others are not. Throughout the trip I felt like the east coast was pinging all these news items and alerts to California -- important information about politics, the economy, stocks, Europe -- and it all seemed to lose its importance and meaning by the time it reached the west coast. Who really cares? You wake up early in California, the northeast corridor is already getting ready for lunch, and none of it really seems to matter. Who the hell watches MSNBC in California?
Wednesday - After the conference ended for the day we drove out to La Jolla. We were in a Suburban-style vehicle with seating for eight. Rihanna ("We Found Love") was blasting in the speakers and I loved it. Our driver was a little surly and wore an odd suit. At one point we were struggling to do something -- unlatch a seatbelt, open a container -- and someone jokingly said, "How many master's degrees does it take to [complete this task]?" Later, after we had gotten out, the driver said to us, "I have two master's degrees," and explained how he had been a successful businessman in his home country. I felt bad that he had totally misread us.
We had dinner in La Jolla at a fancy and wonderful restaurant. The most sophisticated meal I've had in a long time, including a couple of these rosemary-based cocktails:
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Afterwards we walked down to where the road curved down by the surf. It was pitch black and we couldn't see anything, just the roar of the waves, the artless barking of the sea lions, and the great black emptiness of the water. I thought a lot about the only other time I've been to La Jolla -- on my first trip out west, in the spring break of 2001 (almost eleven years ago now) -- I was with a couple people I loved dearly then, one of whom is still my friend, the other lost to time -- but that was the first trip where I really traveled, saw the Pacific, drove hundreds of new miles. That trip was a real lodestar for me and it was good to return here under completely different circumstances.
As we piled into the car to return home I said, "I need some Rihanna right now! Give me some RiRi!" And sure enough, at that moment the song I wanted to hear ("...In a Hopeless Place") came oomphing through the speakers.
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| Night in La Jolla |
Thursday - Dinner in Old Town San Diego, at Cafe Coyote (or Coyote Cafe). We walked by the oldest brick structure in southern California, a regal building that had a large weeping tree of some kind on its property. I moseyed around the sidewalks and felt completely disoriented. I thought I was in New Orleans or something, but no... The randomness of this trip and my presence in southern California never really abated.
Friday - After the conference ended at noon on Friday I wasn't sure what to do with myself. I wandered around the beautiful spacious suburban sprawl and investigated their version of a Chipotle. It was full of men in their 30s and 40s in business casual attire. Many people were sitting outside on the little plaza. The interior was so spacious that I actually took up a whole booth by myself, just me and my food and my copy of The Atlantic with Barack Obama on it. I felt like a real East Coast elitist asshole. The food was great -- the steak tasted different, the guacamole was smoother, the chips were better. Huh.
I spent more time walking around the hotel area, doing work when I could, and then returned to sit by the pool for a while. A new conference was launching in those final hours and I felt awkward remaining there. Our time had passed. At the airport I realized that I had waited in the same terminal a few years earlier with colleagues from the law firm, and I again thought about how much had changed since then.
Does California only exist as a fantasy, a mirror, a landmark on the horizon to notch the passing of time? It sure seems that way.
Wednesday, February 01, 2012
A good night
After work I went with a colleague to Cibreo for some happy hour drinks. A couple of good rounds of laughs and good-natured bitching. Afterwards I met L, Alice, and friends for dinner. J was in town for a couple days and I was looking forward to a leisurely evening of laughs and revelry. When I arrived at the apartment the baby girls were just coming out of the bath, all wearing their pajamas - N in hearts, Alice in pink and red footies, P in her blue footies. The girls giggled and swarmed around the apartment as the adults prepared dinner.
I left the apartment, so briefly, to buy some bourbon and ice cream - 3 pints from Ben and Jerry's for $12 - strawberry cheesecake (the classic), Boston Cream Pie (the chocolate), Cinnamon Buns (the wild card). Back inside the ladies were drinking dirty martinis while the men moved on to bourbon. Around 9 or so some wonderful Asian noodly dish made its way to the table as the baby girls slept or mumbled in the bedrooms. We ate and laughed, ate and laughed. Dinner plates were replaced by bowls and ice cream. Alice grew upset, so around 10 pm we brought her back into the fray. She was charming, eating her ice cream, speaking into the remotes as if they were telephones, hugging and flirting with all of us. J&A gave us our Christmas presents: a ridiculously hipster hoodie for me, plus a bookstore gift certificate, and a Kindle for L. J said "we love you" so casually and easily that it must be true.
Finally we coaxed a jacket onto our daughter and packed everything into a cab. Made it home here, watched some television. As I write this I finished some work stuff and L is asleep in the other room. Tomorrow morning I'll see my friend J briefly, briefly, before he returns to Spain until the summertime. But it will be enough.
The refrain tonight - "it feels like Friday, but it's only Tuesday." Such small sweet pleasures in life - good food and drink, friends you love dearly. Considerate gifts. A child eating ice cream late at night in her borrowed pajamas; the chance for our daughter to be the girl who stays up, the one who gets to sneak into our nighttime conversation, to see her parents with their friends, so happy, so grateful.
I left the apartment, so briefly, to buy some bourbon and ice cream - 3 pints from Ben and Jerry's for $12 - strawberry cheesecake (the classic), Boston Cream Pie (the chocolate), Cinnamon Buns (the wild card). Back inside the ladies were drinking dirty martinis while the men moved on to bourbon. Around 9 or so some wonderful Asian noodly dish made its way to the table as the baby girls slept or mumbled in the bedrooms. We ate and laughed, ate and laughed. Dinner plates were replaced by bowls and ice cream. Alice grew upset, so around 10 pm we brought her back into the fray. She was charming, eating her ice cream, speaking into the remotes as if they were telephones, hugging and flirting with all of us. J&A gave us our Christmas presents: a ridiculously hipster hoodie for me, plus a bookstore gift certificate, and a Kindle for L. J said "we love you" so casually and easily that it must be true.
Finally we coaxed a jacket onto our daughter and packed everything into a cab. Made it home here, watched some television. As I write this I finished some work stuff and L is asleep in the other room. Tomorrow morning I'll see my friend J briefly, briefly, before he returns to Spain until the summertime. But it will be enough.
The refrain tonight - "it feels like Friday, but it's only Tuesday." Such small sweet pleasures in life - good food and drink, friends you love dearly. Considerate gifts. A child eating ice cream late at night in her borrowed pajamas; the chance for our daughter to be the girl who stays up, the one who gets to sneak into our nighttime conversation, to see her parents with their friends, so happy, so grateful.
Tuesday, January 24, 2012
Night rhythms
Tonight, after Alice and I finally got home, after Alice took her bath, after we attempted to FaceTime with L in Atlanta while Alice was in the tub, resulting in an anguished Alice reaching her soapy hands towards L's face enclosed by the distressingly small face of the phone, after reading books and kissing goodnight, after watching the debate, after doing some work and agonizing over the unkempt state of my inbox, after looking around the quiet apartment, I remembered that something good had happened today. I had been worried about something for a while, and got a phone call in the middle of a meeting this morning telling me that things were okay. When my phone started vibrating, I knew immediately what it was, and I was able to stride out of the conference room with the unquestioning confidence I can never seem to muster when I really need it. I got my good news and came back into the meeting, taking that idea and folding it neatly and placing it in my pocket.
And then tonight I discovered it again. To celebrate I decided to pour some Sambuca for myself and add three coffee beans. As Alice slept and the city lay dark and still outside the windows, I cleaned the kitchen and listened to music, washing tupperware and making sandwiches for tomorrow, gathering all my ingredients for morning oatmeal, portioning my carrot sticks for lunch. In the shadowy kitchen I let my iPod be my guide, gliding through the night with the slow, true old songs made for evenings like this.
Ever since I was in high school these late hours were made for music and quiet. Singing low in my night kitchen reminded me of the solitude that I don't often experience anymore, for great reasons -- but what joy there was to be found in those old slow songs, a voice worn and lowered by the length of the day, a clean kitchen ready for the morning, a glass of sambuca at hand, patient and restorative, and the memory of good news to absolve the day of worry.
And then tonight I discovered it again. To celebrate I decided to pour some Sambuca for myself and add three coffee beans. As Alice slept and the city lay dark and still outside the windows, I cleaned the kitchen and listened to music, washing tupperware and making sandwiches for tomorrow, gathering all my ingredients for morning oatmeal, portioning my carrot sticks for lunch. In the shadowy kitchen I let my iPod be my guide, gliding through the night with the slow, true old songs made for evenings like this.
Ever since I was in high school these late hours were made for music and quiet. Singing low in my night kitchen reminded me of the solitude that I don't often experience anymore, for great reasons -- but what joy there was to be found in those old slow songs, a voice worn and lowered by the length of the day, a clean kitchen ready for the morning, a glass of sambuca at hand, patient and restorative, and the memory of good news to absolve the day of worry.
Saturday, December 31, 2011
Books of the year, 2011
In chronological order, here are the books I loved most in 2011:
This year I also found myself getting stuck in long novels that could have used some decent editing, particularly Paul Murray's Skippy Dies and, as much as it pains me to say it, 1Q84. It frustrated me to wade through bloated prose that deserved to be leaner and finer. I am usually very lenient with big ol' doorstops, but these books tested my patience (even if I enjoyed the ride, as in the Murakami).
This year I also ended reading chunks of books and then dropping them, for various reasons: The Imperfectionists, Love and Summer, Madame Bovary, and others. This was embarrassing but unavoidable.
I think my favorite novel this year was The Lonely Polygamist, a sprawling look at a polygamist in contemporary Utah. The writer juggled multiple voices and created a universe all his own. It was moving, funny, exciting, and unpredictable. It's a long novel that justified its scope and breadth.
I'm currently reading Anthony Trollope's The Way We Live Now (as I said I would in last year's annual book round-up, oddly enough). I've been pleasantly surprised so far - Trollope knows how to maintain the reader's interest, and his characters are well-developed, complicated, and profoundly, irredeemably selfish. It makes for great reading (more on this soon). Other books in the queue for 2012: The Steve Jobs biography, Game of Thrones, and who knows what else. I'm hoping the final volume of Lyndon Johnson comes out in the fall, and then we'll see whatever comes my way. Hooray for reading!
- The Naked and the Dead by Norman Mailer
- Raymond Carver: A Writer's Life by Carol Sklenicka
- The Years of Lyndon Johnson: Master of the Senate by Robert A. Caro
- Too Much Happiness by Alice Munro
- Something is Out There by Richard Bausch
- Blue Collar, White Collar, No Collar edited by Richard Ford
- The Optimist's Daughter by Eudora Welty
- The Lonely Polygamist by Brady Udall
- A Visit From the Goon Squad by Jennifer Egan
- Ladies and Gentlemen by Adam Ross
- 1Q84 by Haruki Murakami
This year I also found myself getting stuck in long novels that could have used some decent editing, particularly Paul Murray's Skippy Dies and, as much as it pains me to say it, 1Q84. It frustrated me to wade through bloated prose that deserved to be leaner and finer. I am usually very lenient with big ol' doorstops, but these books tested my patience (even if I enjoyed the ride, as in the Murakami).
This year I also ended reading chunks of books and then dropping them, for various reasons: The Imperfectionists, Love and Summer, Madame Bovary, and others. This was embarrassing but unavoidable.
I think my favorite novel this year was The Lonely Polygamist, a sprawling look at a polygamist in contemporary Utah. The writer juggled multiple voices and created a universe all his own. It was moving, funny, exciting, and unpredictable. It's a long novel that justified its scope and breadth.
I'm currently reading Anthony Trollope's The Way We Live Now (as I said I would in last year's annual book round-up, oddly enough). I've been pleasantly surprised so far - Trollope knows how to maintain the reader's interest, and his characters are well-developed, complicated, and profoundly, irredeemably selfish. It makes for great reading (more on this soon). Other books in the queue for 2012: The Steve Jobs biography, Game of Thrones, and who knows what else. I'm hoping the final volume of Lyndon Johnson comes out in the fall, and then we'll see whatever comes my way. Hooray for reading!
Music of the year, 2011
My music consumption this year was dominated by two big, random albums. Last winter I bought Diddy-Dirty Money's "Last Train to Paris," a completely synthetic piece of music that nonetheless captured my interest for much of the year. For this album Sean "Diddy" Combs gathered two girl singers by his side and attempted to replicate the magic of his old duet with Keyshia Cole, "Last Night." The result was a solid and shockingly consistent album of R&B/electronic/dance music. My two favorite tracks were the classily named "A** on the Floor" and the epic "Shades." Although the videos for this album were uniformly grim and lifeless, like some kind of dank urban vampire film, the music was compulsively danceable and great for running. There were a good 6-8 songs I really loved here, which is rare. This was an amazing album for me.
The second big album this year was Foster the People's "Torches," a relentlessly peppy and energetic jumble of indie rock with deep undercurrents of R&B and hip hop (at least as I found it). The rock elements were balanced by some good electronic arrangements and some definite swag. This album reminds me of training for the marathon in Central Park and it revs me up. There were a lot of great songs on here: "Helena Beat," "Life on the Nickel," "Miss You," among others.
Inspired by "Torches," I followed Foster the People down the rabbit hole of Pandora to discover myself really enjoying some twee white people music performed by dirty hippies. Two songs really wormed their way into my consciousness and conjured great feelings about life and family: The Middle East's "Blood" and "Home" by Edward Sharpe & the Magnetic Zeros. (I'm a couple years late on the latter, but whatever.) I found myself enjoying a lot of other songs of similar ilk, although I couldn't help thinking that this is music for racists who don't want any trace of black culture in their music. I don't know if this is true or not.
There were some other great songs this year too. I enjoyed the unabashed dance music of David Guetta's "Where Them Girls At," featuring Flo Rida and Nicki Minaj, and Usher's "DJ Got Us Fallin' in Love." The-Dream released an EP online under his given name, Terius Nash, that was mostly forgettable except for the aggressive and rhythmic "Ghetto," featuring a great verse by Big Sean. Kelly Rowland's song "Motivation," featuring Lil Wayne, was an odd little confection. I'm still not sure what the song is actually about, but it always engaged me with its mysterious structure and lilting chorus. The remix with Trey Songz was great too. And Kelly's former bandmate Beyonce had some interesting songs on her latest album, particularly "Countdown," featuring a bizarre use of a Boyz II Men video and a music video that was irresistible and jubilant.
One other album hit it big for me this year, like it did for everybody: Adele's "21." At this point she has reached a peak of cultural saturation, and the recent SNL sketch mocking the emotional depth of "Someone Like You" both proved the point and laughed at the power of the song. But "Rolling in the Deep" remains a profoundly amazing song, and other songs carried a similar power and honesty, especially "Turning Tables" and her cover of "Lovesong."
Overall this didn't feel like a great year of music. There were albums I meant to get, like the new Coldplay and the new Drake, but I just didn't. I feel like I'm aging out of pop music and hip hop, and a lot of R&B feels musty and repetitive. Where do I go now? Into the flannel-clad arms of all these bearded white people? I refuse to let that happen. In the meantime I'll keep listening to find something new, something to keep me moving.
The second big album this year was Foster the People's "Torches," a relentlessly peppy and energetic jumble of indie rock with deep undercurrents of R&B and hip hop (at least as I found it). The rock elements were balanced by some good electronic arrangements and some definite swag. This album reminds me of training for the marathon in Central Park and it revs me up. There were a lot of great songs on here: "Helena Beat," "Life on the Nickel," "Miss You," among others.
Inspired by "Torches," I followed Foster the People down the rabbit hole of Pandora to discover myself really enjoying some twee white people music performed by dirty hippies. Two songs really wormed their way into my consciousness and conjured great feelings about life and family: The Middle East's "Blood" and "Home" by Edward Sharpe & the Magnetic Zeros. (I'm a couple years late on the latter, but whatever.) I found myself enjoying a lot of other songs of similar ilk, although I couldn't help thinking that this is music for racists who don't want any trace of black culture in their music. I don't know if this is true or not.
There were some other great songs this year too. I enjoyed the unabashed dance music of David Guetta's "Where Them Girls At," featuring Flo Rida and Nicki Minaj, and Usher's "DJ Got Us Fallin' in Love." The-Dream released an EP online under his given name, Terius Nash, that was mostly forgettable except for the aggressive and rhythmic "Ghetto," featuring a great verse by Big Sean. Kelly Rowland's song "Motivation," featuring Lil Wayne, was an odd little confection. I'm still not sure what the song is actually about, but it always engaged me with its mysterious structure and lilting chorus. The remix with Trey Songz was great too. And Kelly's former bandmate Beyonce had some interesting songs on her latest album, particularly "Countdown," featuring a bizarre use of a Boyz II Men video and a music video that was irresistible and jubilant.
One other album hit it big for me this year, like it did for everybody: Adele's "21." At this point she has reached a peak of cultural saturation, and the recent SNL sketch mocking the emotional depth of "Someone Like You" both proved the point and laughed at the power of the song. But "Rolling in the Deep" remains a profoundly amazing song, and other songs carried a similar power and honesty, especially "Turning Tables" and her cover of "Lovesong."
Overall this didn't feel like a great year of music. There were albums I meant to get, like the new Coldplay and the new Drake, but I just didn't. I feel like I'm aging out of pop music and hip hop, and a lot of R&B feels musty and repetitive. Where do I go now? Into the flannel-clad arms of all these bearded white people? I refuse to let that happen. In the meantime I'll keep listening to find something new, something to keep me moving.
Monday, December 19, 2011
Shake Shack
The other Friday night the three of us headed down to 79th Street to have dinner at Shake Shack. It was a cold night on the Upper West Side, the kind of night that reminds me of my first year in the city, when I would walk down to the Loews theatre on 68th Street to watch movies by myself on Saturday nights. It's the feeling of being wrapped up in a hat and scarf, carrying a book, and knowing you have everything you could need for the moment.
December/Christmas
Ah, December. Where are we. Our Christmas tree this year is a thing of beauty. It's taller than last year's, and Alice seems impressed by it. We have rituals during the day when we plug in the lights and turn the tree "on," after the fanfare of Alice's countdown (parents: "one..." Alice: "two...three!"), and she and I have a ritual at night of watering the tree (both of us kneeling on the ground, an incantatory "pour pour pour," following a similar counting exercise). We have taught her to treat the tree gingerly -- after a few early ornaments made the ultimate sacrifice -- and now Alice eyes it warily, an object of beauty stricken with risk.
I'm trying to compile my lists of my favorite songs of the year and the best books I read, so it's time to take stock of the year. When I look backwards I see a lot of great things. In chronological order: I took an amazing writing class; we went to Spain; we went to Rehoboth; I ran a marathon; we cooked Thanksgiving dinner. Throughout the year I felt good about my work professionally, and I've had a good semester with my students. Alice has brought an absurd, abundant measure of joy into our lives. We worry about money, but we sleep well most nights.
In some ways, though, I also feel like this year has been affected by an undercurrent of exhaustion, or compromise. There is never enough time or energy to do what I think I should be doing. Time spent pursuing my own endeavors -- exercise, running, writing -- often feels like time taken away from my family. After spending much of my work day staring at a computer and pinging back emails, I struggle to want to come home to write for pleasure, or to write the personal emails that I should be sending to maintain important ties. After a workweek spent sprinting through our precarious routines, I can't find it in myself to get up early for the gym on Sunday mornings. It just doesn't make sense right now. And yet there's always time for garbage television. But I'm trying to revise my internet consumption to get away from the things that don't really excite me -- no more Gawker, less Facebook. Less time wasted, hopefully.
I think as 2012 begins I want to try to be more purposeful about the decisions I make, how I decide to expend my time and energy. Because this was a good year, and I think a great one could be around the corner. It feels good to put words together. I want to do more of that.
More to come in the next few days.
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
Thanksgiving!
There's not much to say about Thanksgiving besides the fact that it was wonderful. Four generations around the table -- a table nearly buckling under the weight of so much good food, most of it prepared by my beautiful wife/executive chef, L. My grandma said the turkey was the best she's ever eaten. The weather was nice enough to allow for plenty of long walks and an excursion to Central Park. We all had the chance to express our gratitude for the chance to be together to celebrate the holiday and enjoy the gifts and blessings of a growing family. I don't know what more one could want.
...Oh wait! I DO know what more one could want. We had a huge debacle in the morning thanks to the Macys Thanksgiving Day Parade. We had received tickets from an extremely kind colleague of L's, so my parents and I, along with Alice, trooped down to Columbus Circle early in the morning to claim our seats in the bleachers in Central Park. We unexpectedly had to walk ten blocks north to get to the only available entrance, and by the time we got there, the police weren't allowing anybody else in. People were walking out of the parade route area a block away, telling all of us who were assembled, "Don't bother! There's nowhere to sit and you can't even see! We had tickets too!" As you may be able to tell, the people telling us this were fashionable gay men who were waving their hands in disgust. We bought Alice a blow-up Dora the Explorer doll as a consolation prize (she loves it - ever since she has been pushing Dora in the stroller, dancing with Dora, making us include Dora in "Ring Around the Rosy," and dragging Dora to the table to eat with us).
So, rejected by the parade, we went to a little cafe to eat some breakfast, where we encountered the people I will always think of fondly as the Thanksgiving Assholes of 2011. Let me set the scene: picture three rectangular two-top tables lined up along the window. Simple, right? We pushed two tables together to accommodate our party, dumped our stuff there, and went to get our food. When we returned, we found that the Thanksgiving Assholes - a well-dressed middle aged couple - had turned the remaining two-top around, so that both seats were now parallel to the window I guess, which had the effect of blocking us from getting into our table. I said, excuse me, please let us in, and my polite mom said, oh, we'll just sit elsewhere (forcing us to crowd around a skimpy little table), and the male Thanksgiving Asshole said, "Oh, you'll be fine, there's plenty of room there." The woman concurred, and after a bit more completely disrespectful small talk, the encounter was formally over.
But not for me, of course! I spent the rest of the meal shooting them dirty looks, saying loud remarks like "that was really rude" and "we have no room for my daughter now," and subtly jabbing the man with our inflatable Dora. Even days later, while out on a run, I thought about them and their absolute thoughtlessness and blithe disregard for us and got irritated again. I hope their turkey tasted like sand. Happy Thanksgiving!
Saturday, November 26, 2011
Hand, foot and mouth
There was a period last week when I was debilitated by a nasty little virus called Hand, Foot, and Mouth Disease. Alice had it first, an extremely mild case, thank God, and then passed it to me. On Friday night I felt feverish and exhausted. On Sunday bright red little sores started pocking the palms of my hands and the soles of my feet. I had a few sores on my face but thankfully I was spared the wounds on the inside of the mouth that make it nearly impossible to eat.
Over the next few days these sores blossomed into bright throbbing little nubs of pain. I could barely walk. It hurt to bend my fingers. My extremities felt red-hot, contorted by this raging pressure. I went to work on Monday but left after half the day. My colleagues were horrified. People asked if I was staggering because of a marathon-related malady, and I told them no. I had to lean on my desk and lurch sideways to open the door to my students. I didn't go to the bathroom because I couldn't bear the idea of walking that far. At home, when I removed my shoes and socks, I felt sure that my feet would be covered in blood.
At home I crawled to the bathroom on my hands and knees to avoid pressure on my feet. It felt a little better to elevate my feet, so I sat on the couch, responded to work emails, and watched wretched daytime programming like "The Talk." I stayed home on Tuesday, in a haze of Benadryl. By Wednesday the sores started receding, yet even today my hands and feet are still slightly pocked. The skin along my fingers and toes has been peeling for days now and I don't really know when this process will be completely over. I am basically molting dead skin over everything.
The key point here is: it's disgusting, and it knocked me out for a couple of days. I just wanted to record this for posterity.
Over the next few days these sores blossomed into bright throbbing little nubs of pain. I could barely walk. It hurt to bend my fingers. My extremities felt red-hot, contorted by this raging pressure. I went to work on Monday but left after half the day. My colleagues were horrified. People asked if I was staggering because of a marathon-related malady, and I told them no. I had to lean on my desk and lurch sideways to open the door to my students. I didn't go to the bathroom because I couldn't bear the idea of walking that far. At home, when I removed my shoes and socks, I felt sure that my feet would be covered in blood.
At home I crawled to the bathroom on my hands and knees to avoid pressure on my feet. It felt a little better to elevate my feet, so I sat on the couch, responded to work emails, and watched wretched daytime programming like "The Talk." I stayed home on Tuesday, in a haze of Benadryl. By Wednesday the sores started receding, yet even today my hands and feet are still slightly pocked. The skin along my fingers and toes has been peeling for days now and I don't really know when this process will be completely over. I am basically molting dead skin over everything.
The key point here is: it's disgusting, and it knocked me out for a couple of days. I just wanted to record this for posterity.
Friday, November 25, 2011
Marathon closure
Well, yes and no. I trained enough so that I felt pretty darn good the day after the marathon - no injuries, no sprains, no lingering effects. Unfortunately, though, I did feel like I ran out of steam during the final third of the race. I was breathing fine, my legs felt great, but I just felt tapped out. I was fantasizing about icy glasses of Coke; my mouth would actually tingle with anticipation as I ran. I felt that if I let my eyes close, I would fall asleep mid-stride. During the run I had to go to the bathroom four times, which never, ever, ever happens. And I took the chance to talk to L, Alice, and my folks for a minute the three times I saw them, for three reasons: to make sure Alice understood that I was there, to reassure everyone that I was okay, and to make the whole endeavor a little more worthwhile of their time.
Running the New York marathon for a second time was surprisingly similar to the first. I was sorry to realize it, but it felt like a diminishing return. The great parts were great. The tough parts were really tough. And there were no real surprises. The crowds were supportive when they yelled out my name, unless I was walking in pain, at which point they felt taunting. This time around I tried hard to high-five all the little kids in Brooklyn, when I felt great and invincible. During the final miles, when Central Park seemed absolutely alien to me through my fog of exhaustion, I couldn't stop myself from walking. I was more generous with breaks than I have ever been before. I tried not to hold myself to an impossible standard, but I couldn't, so I wasn't pleased with things.
After the race I staggered through the finishers staging area in desperate need of a porta-potty. I rehydrated too quickly and ended up vomiting over a fence in the park, a few dozen yards away from Central Park West. After we reunited, as I walked with my family searching for a cab, they peppered me with questions about the run, and I just said, "Can we please not talk about it yet." At home I vomited again, took an ice bath, took a shower, fell asleep. Two hours later I was awake and ravenous. I ate heartily, drank a lot of Coke, and told everyone about the day's adventure. I was fine, I was a champion.
I don't mean to sound negative about the experience, but I think this was my last New York marathon for a while. Now I'm thinking about next year's Marine Corps Marathon in DC, not to break any speed records, but to give myself a challenge and a goal. Ultimately what I learned is that my modified training schedule actually worked pretty darn well, given the demands on my time and the fact that I'm four years older than the last time around. (As my mom pointed out, I'm also heavier than I was last time. As I looked at her, agog, she added, "Well, we all said it!") And most importantly, I did the race and I'm not injured. Last time I ran it was six months before I laced up my running shoes again. The training process had exhausted me and given me knee pain that lasted for weeks. Yet I've already been running since this marathon, and I'm very deliberate about starting a new chapter in my running life right away. I may not have triumphed on marathon day the way I hoped to, but I endured in a way that I didn't quite expect. And that kind of sneaky lesson is what the marathon is all about.
Saturday, November 05, 2011
Marathon eve
Tomorrow is the marathon! The thought of this puts a weight in the pit of my stomach. I can't believe it's here, and that this largely theoretical training program of mine is about to come to fruition. Doing this the second time around is very different. I'm not full of the abject fear and wonder of what the experience would be like. I'm not asking myself, "Are you even going to finish it?" Last time around, when there were a lot of people cheering for me and wearing homemade t-shirts, I needed that support and enthusiasm to paper over my own doubts and worries. This time I feel more confident, more ready to enjoy the experience.
In some ways the marathon is a passive thing, like riding the rapids - you enter the current of runners and follow it, turning when they turn, pounding your feet in time with all the others. You wear a shirt with your name on it and listen to people cheer for you. You mentally tick off the miles, the landmarks, the boroughs, and note that the pain and discomfort you are uniquely experiencing is being shared by the people around you, all in their own way.
This time around I feel like I am making some smarter decisions. I can't expect to beat my time from four years ago -- a simpler time, a more fit time, a time of graduate school and oodles of hours to go running in the middle of the week -- but I'm going to try. My training schedule, slashed by the mostly welcome demands of family and work, seems to have still positioned me well for this event. I think my concerns now are more based in the logistics of the whole thing: getting to the Staten Island ferry on time, staying warm while we wait, not getting bored or getting too lost in my head during those slow hours of anticipation. Once we run, once we are launched out of the cannon, then all I have to do is finish it. It's just another long run.
This is the marathon! This time is for Alice. Wish me well.
In some ways the marathon is a passive thing, like riding the rapids - you enter the current of runners and follow it, turning when they turn, pounding your feet in time with all the others. You wear a shirt with your name on it and listen to people cheer for you. You mentally tick off the miles, the landmarks, the boroughs, and note that the pain and discomfort you are uniquely experiencing is being shared by the people around you, all in their own way.
This time around I feel like I am making some smarter decisions. I can't expect to beat my time from four years ago -- a simpler time, a more fit time, a time of graduate school and oodles of hours to go running in the middle of the week -- but I'm going to try. My training schedule, slashed by the mostly welcome demands of family and work, seems to have still positioned me well for this event. I think my concerns now are more based in the logistics of the whole thing: getting to the Staten Island ferry on time, staying warm while we wait, not getting bored or getting too lost in my head during those slow hours of anticipation. Once we run, once we are launched out of the cannon, then all I have to do is finish it. It's just another long run.
This is the marathon! This time is for Alice. Wish me well.
Thursday, November 03, 2011
Moments with Alice
I worked late tonight and came home when Alice had already been in bed for about half an hour. We could hear her burbling in there. I thought to myself, I want to see her.
I went in and she turned around to look at me. She stood up in her crib and raised her arms so I could lift her, first gathering up her blankie and her froggy and her little striped zebra and her board book about counting. Her pacifier bobbed in her mouth. I picked her up and whispered hello, and she pointed to the rocking chair behind me. I sat down and she leaned into me, her legs around my waist, resting her head against my chest. I could see her eyes closing beneath me. We rocked for a while. Hoped she could hear my heart beat. After a bit she leaned back and we made funny faces at each other, and she would laugh quietly at me. She poked at the buttons on my shirt, saying "boop," like we do. "Are you ready to get back in your crib?" She nodded.
I stood up -- her book fell to the floor and we leaned over to pick it up. She was silent as I lowered her into the crib. I walked over to the side, near the door, and squatted down so that we could share a goodnight kiss through the wooden slats. "Goodnight sweet girl, I love you." One more kiss and then she turned to her blankie. I went back into the family room. Best part of the day.
I went in and she turned around to look at me. She stood up in her crib and raised her arms so I could lift her, first gathering up her blankie and her froggy and her little striped zebra and her board book about counting. Her pacifier bobbed in her mouth. I picked her up and whispered hello, and she pointed to the rocking chair behind me. I sat down and she leaned into me, her legs around my waist, resting her head against my chest. I could see her eyes closing beneath me. We rocked for a while. Hoped she could hear my heart beat. After a bit she leaned back and we made funny faces at each other, and she would laugh quietly at me. She poked at the buttons on my shirt, saying "boop," like we do. "Are you ready to get back in your crib?" She nodded.
I stood up -- her book fell to the floor and we leaned over to pick it up. She was silent as I lowered her into the crib. I walked over to the side, near the door, and squatted down so that we could share a goodnight kiss through the wooden slats. "Goodnight sweet girl, I love you." One more kiss and then she turned to her blankie. I went back into the family room. Best part of the day.
Sunday, October 16, 2011
12, 13.1, 20 miles
Marathon training update!
12 miles: Two weeks ago I did a nice leisurely twelve miles through Central Park. After the previous 18-mile disaster, my goal here was just to survive. The run went very well; I felt great, especially with the short distance, and there was a half-marathon road race occurring at the same time. On the plus side this meant that I could take advantage of the water and Gatorade prepared for the runners; on the negative side this meant that I was completely subsumed by a tidal wave of fast runners during the last quarter of the run, when I was at my slowest and most pathetic. But the race went well, and I don't care what other people think of me!
13.1 miles: Last weekend I participated in the Staten Island Half Marathon. Woke up at 5 to take the train all the way to South Ferry, then the ferry over to the island. Staten Island, it turns out, is kind of a pit. We ran through some industrial areas with very little shade or scenery, and the landscape was so bleak that they had a couple of DJs stationed intermittently to keep things moving. Even though the day was hot, I was very pleased with my time. I did well, and I think the excitement of running on unfamiliar roads (rather than the intimately familiar topography of Central Park) gave me some fresh power. On the way back I felt a little queasy, but I distracted myself by talking to some nice Canadian tourists about all the sights and sounds of our fair city. I came back and showered at the our old gym in the Village, which was about as nostalgic and bittersweet as showering at a gym can be, I guess.
20 miles: Today I ran 20 miles! Approximately. I ran down the West side of Manhattan, then back up the east side, then cut over along 110th street until I reached my familiar end-point in the Park. The run went very well - I felt good and strong, although on the Upper East Side I couldn't figure out how to get down to the riverfront, so I had to stagger along York and First Avenues for much of the time. Also, early on in the run, there were a couple of miles when I was afraid I had pooped myself a little. But thankfully, false alarm! I felt good and strong after the run, too, and I think I figured out the nutritional/hydration element I had been missing: I carried some salt packets and pretzels with me, and I snacked on them at the halfway point as well as at the finish. It was a little odd downing a packet of salt (it all just stuck to my tongue, until I drank something to wash it down), but my body seemed to appreciate it.
Now, I just have shorter runs until the actual marathon, three weeks from today. It's happening! And I'll be ready.
12 miles: Two weeks ago I did a nice leisurely twelve miles through Central Park. After the previous 18-mile disaster, my goal here was just to survive. The run went very well; I felt great, especially with the short distance, and there was a half-marathon road race occurring at the same time. On the plus side this meant that I could take advantage of the water and Gatorade prepared for the runners; on the negative side this meant that I was completely subsumed by a tidal wave of fast runners during the last quarter of the run, when I was at my slowest and most pathetic. But the race went well, and I don't care what other people think of me!
13.1 miles: Last weekend I participated in the Staten Island Half Marathon. Woke up at 5 to take the train all the way to South Ferry, then the ferry over to the island. Staten Island, it turns out, is kind of a pit. We ran through some industrial areas with very little shade or scenery, and the landscape was so bleak that they had a couple of DJs stationed intermittently to keep things moving. Even though the day was hot, I was very pleased with my time. I did well, and I think the excitement of running on unfamiliar roads (rather than the intimately familiar topography of Central Park) gave me some fresh power. On the way back I felt a little queasy, but I distracted myself by talking to some nice Canadian tourists about all the sights and sounds of our fair city. I came back and showered at the our old gym in the Village, which was about as nostalgic and bittersweet as showering at a gym can be, I guess.
20 miles: Today I ran 20 miles! Approximately. I ran down the West side of Manhattan, then back up the east side, then cut over along 110th street until I reached my familiar end-point in the Park. The run went very well - I felt good and strong, although on the Upper East Side I couldn't figure out how to get down to the riverfront, so I had to stagger along York and First Avenues for much of the time. Also, early on in the run, there were a couple of miles when I was afraid I had pooped myself a little. But thankfully, false alarm! I felt good and strong after the run, too, and I think I figured out the nutritional/hydration element I had been missing: I carried some salt packets and pretzels with me, and I snacked on them at the halfway point as well as at the finish. It was a little odd downing a packet of salt (it all just stuck to my tongue, until I drank something to wash it down), but my body seemed to appreciate it.
Now, I just have shorter runs until the actual marathon, three weeks from today. It's happening! And I'll be ready.
Sunday, September 25, 2011
Eighteen miles
What brutality! Today was the official marathon "Tune Up" race, 18 miles through Central Park, three scathingly repetitive six-mile loops. Because I expected it to be cold and rainy, I wore long pants and a long-sleeve shirt (my official 2007 marathon shirt, as a matter of fact - I wanted some of its mojo today). As soon as I arrived at the race I realized I must have made a grave miscalculation. Everyone else was wearing standard warm-weather running gear, and there I was, wearing basically an athletic burqa. At some point during the race, around mile 6, a woman ran alongside me and said, "You're really overdressed compared to everyone here, huh?" Who says that? "I feel great," I said huffily, "Have a great run." I pulled away and was happily convinced that I had left her in my dust, until I saw her trotting along ahead of me a few minutes later. Oh well.
Unfortunately, that turned out to be a high point of the race. It was hot and humid and I was drenched in sweat. I tried to stay well-hydrated with gatorade and water and allowed myself generous walking breaks. I even tried one of those disgusting goo packets, full of carbs and electrolytes in a liquid with the consistency of motor oil. After the race ended, as my leg muscles blazed and the sweat continued pouring, I jumped in a cab to head home - L had to go to a work function on Staten Island and I needed to return to watch Alice as quickly as possible.
"You look a little piqued," L told me. I felt horrible. I couldn't stray far from the bathroom. After L departed it was just me and LB (Alice), which meant that during my long sojourns to the bathroom, I had to leave the door open to keep an eye on the baby. So during the same period of time when it felt like I was losing all of the fluids (and several of the major organs) in my body, thus rendering me basically incapacitated, Alice was sitting there merrily unrolling toilet paper or playing with feminine hygiene projects. The low point arrived when I had to inform L by text that I had just thrown up into a trash can while sitting on the toilet, and that Alice had watched the whole thing. She stared at me with a disconcerting mixture of innocent curiosity and prurient interest.
At this late point in the day I have finally managed to keep some food down, and my skin is no longer the color of paper. Was this an obstacle on my marathon journey? Yes, yes it was. Over the coming days I will try to figure out how and why my body betrayed me so. But am I giving up on my marathon dreams of 2011? No, sir, I am not. I'm busted, but not broken.
Unfortunately, that turned out to be a high point of the race. It was hot and humid and I was drenched in sweat. I tried to stay well-hydrated with gatorade and water and allowed myself generous walking breaks. I even tried one of those disgusting goo packets, full of carbs and electrolytes in a liquid with the consistency of motor oil. After the race ended, as my leg muscles blazed and the sweat continued pouring, I jumped in a cab to head home - L had to go to a work function on Staten Island and I needed to return to watch Alice as quickly as possible.
"You look a little piqued," L told me. I felt horrible. I couldn't stray far from the bathroom. After L departed it was just me and LB (Alice), which meant that during my long sojourns to the bathroom, I had to leave the door open to keep an eye on the baby. So during the same period of time when it felt like I was losing all of the fluids (and several of the major organs) in my body, thus rendering me basically incapacitated, Alice was sitting there merrily unrolling toilet paper or playing with feminine hygiene projects. The low point arrived when I had to inform L by text that I had just thrown up into a trash can while sitting on the toilet, and that Alice had watched the whole thing. She stared at me with a disconcerting mixture of innocent curiosity and prurient interest.
At this late point in the day I have finally managed to keep some food down, and my skin is no longer the color of paper. Was this an obstacle on my marathon journey? Yes, yes it was. Over the coming days I will try to figure out how and why my body betrayed me so. But am I giving up on my marathon dreams of 2011? No, sir, I am not. I'm busted, but not broken.
Tuesday, September 20, 2011
Sixteen miles
Saturday's run was a sixteen-miler. I was very anxious about it overnight; I kept waking up wondering if it was time to go yet. I was worried that my dinner wasn't substantial enough to fuel me through. The run was okay - I am still being slow and generous with myself, but my leg muscles were just exhausted by the end. I feel like I am good cardio-wise, but I am trying to work on my leg muscles. I have accumulated an almost silly regime of preparation and recovery: Nip guards! Vaseline on the thighs! Two bottles of Gatorade! Ice baths! There is no glamor in this task.
In other news, our nanny quit on Wednesday, after missing work on Tuesday for health reasons, and announced that Friday would be her last day. Amid a week of bad news and unpleasant events, this one took the cake. We pulled it together and hired a delightful new nanny on Saturday, and so far she is great. Our third nanny in about 14 months. I'm feeling like Destiny's Child up in here, but hopefully now things can settle down.
In other news, our nanny quit on Wednesday, after missing work on Tuesday for health reasons, and announced that Friday would be her last day. Amid a week of bad news and unpleasant events, this one took the cake. We pulled it together and hired a delightful new nanny on Saturday, and so far she is great. Our third nanny in about 14 months. I'm feeling like Destiny's Child up in here, but hopefully now things can settle down.
Sunday, September 11, 2011
September 11th, ten years later
For the last couple of days I've been immersing myself in a lot of the immediate coverage that followed the terrorist attacks ten years ago. It's hard not to watch the footage without a rock in my stomach. The newscasters' fumbling narration in real time, the background whine of sirens that seemed so feeble in the face of such destruction.
When I think about my life, I tend to believe that the Modern Era -- that is, adulthood -- began when I graduated college and moved to New York in 2002. September 11th occurred during the first few weeks of my senior year at UVA. My memories of that day are stark and clear, and many of the people with whom I experienced that day are still deeply involved in my life (most especially, my wife). When I arrived in New York months later that experience was still burned onto the short-term memory of the city. Every summer hordes of young people arrive in the city determined to start their lives, and I felt proud to be part of the first wave of new arrivals following the attacks. Yet I also felt like an interloper -- someone who skips the funeral but attends the reception afterwards.
Living in the city has given me a new intimacy with the events of that day, a new understanding of the geography of grief. I used to run by Ground Zero all the time when we lived downtown. My wife's old workplace was near the scene of a major staging area for the first responders. The same hospital where the victims were sent, where Cardinal Egan stood outside administering last rites to the dead and dying, is where my daughter was born.
Today L and I took Alice downtown to get out of the house and go eat at a burger joint from back home. Impromptu memorials had been established all around the old neighborhood, in front of firehouses, along the chain-link fence where people have hung dozens of ceramic tiles commemorating that day. On the subway we saw many law enforcement personnel in dress uniform. We saw people who had come from the major memorial service, relatives of the victims, including someone who wore a badge identifying them as a reader of the names. I felt frivolous sitting there in my shorts with my soda, frivolous and irreverent in the face of their grief and the tragedy this city -- now my city -- endured.
And yet life goes on. Just like ten years ago, this weekend felt like one of the last vanishing weekends of summer. Today Alice enjoyed her french fries and milkshake, and she was smiling and chatty for her momma and daddy. Events that were unthinkable ten years ago have somehow been folded into our understanding of ourselves and our home, and we all move forward, more or less, with an even keel. Resilience and grief, change and memory, ever forward, ever forward.
When I think about my life, I tend to believe that the Modern Era -- that is, adulthood -- began when I graduated college and moved to New York in 2002. September 11th occurred during the first few weeks of my senior year at UVA. My memories of that day are stark and clear, and many of the people with whom I experienced that day are still deeply involved in my life (most especially, my wife). When I arrived in New York months later that experience was still burned onto the short-term memory of the city. Every summer hordes of young people arrive in the city determined to start their lives, and I felt proud to be part of the first wave of new arrivals following the attacks. Yet I also felt like an interloper -- someone who skips the funeral but attends the reception afterwards.
Living in the city has given me a new intimacy with the events of that day, a new understanding of the geography of grief. I used to run by Ground Zero all the time when we lived downtown. My wife's old workplace was near the scene of a major staging area for the first responders. The same hospital where the victims were sent, where Cardinal Egan stood outside administering last rites to the dead and dying, is where my daughter was born.
Today L and I took Alice downtown to get out of the house and go eat at a burger joint from back home. Impromptu memorials had been established all around the old neighborhood, in front of firehouses, along the chain-link fence where people have hung dozens of ceramic tiles commemorating that day. On the subway we saw many law enforcement personnel in dress uniform. We saw people who had come from the major memorial service, relatives of the victims, including someone who wore a badge identifying them as a reader of the names. I felt frivolous sitting there in my shorts with my soda, frivolous and irreverent in the face of their grief and the tragedy this city -- now my city -- endured.
And yet life goes on. Just like ten years ago, this weekend felt like one of the last vanishing weekends of summer. Today Alice enjoyed her french fries and milkshake, and she was smiling and chatty for her momma and daddy. Events that were unthinkable ten years ago have somehow been folded into our understanding of ourselves and our home, and we all move forward, more or less, with an even keel. Resilience and grief, change and memory, ever forward, ever forward.
Saturday, September 10, 2011
Fifteen miles
Fifteen-mile run today, enough of a distance to make me feel proud and want to tell other people about it. Three five-mile loops in Central Park, which was almost immediately boring. I listened to music, thought about work and family, thought about the act of running: what each muscle and joint was doing, how far I had traveled, how much farther to go, always calculating times and percentages. When I am in the middle of a grueling run I tell myself that I have already completed it, that the act of wanting is the same as achieving. "Action is intention," I repeat to myself, and somehow it works well enough.
Starting around the halfway point today the uphill segments of the run began to feel unusually grueling. The slightest change in slope would threaten to wreck me. I was generous with the walking breaks, but it got to be extremely difficult. I was hungry and wanted to sleep. My proudest moment was during my final ascent up the Great Hill, when I maintained a running pace up the entire thing when every fiber of my body wanted to stop and walk. A small victory over myself.
I was fairly useless for much of the day after that. I came home and showered and went to Chipotle for some protein and carbs. L left the bed unmade for me so I could take a nap, but that felt indolent at two in the afternoon. I just took an ice bath and now my entire lower body is quivering, not in the good way.
I had to remind myself that the training process actually will make me stronger. Today it felt like these longer runs merely sap the energy and power that I already have, draining me of what I will need to complete the marathon. Today I saw two runners in particular whose t-shirts resonated with me: the first,"Running sucks"; but then the second: "If you're still sweating, you're still alive." Amen to that.
Starting around the halfway point today the uphill segments of the run began to feel unusually grueling. The slightest change in slope would threaten to wreck me. I was generous with the walking breaks, but it got to be extremely difficult. I was hungry and wanted to sleep. My proudest moment was during my final ascent up the Great Hill, when I maintained a running pace up the entire thing when every fiber of my body wanted to stop and walk. A small victory over myself.
I was fairly useless for much of the day after that. I came home and showered and went to Chipotle for some protein and carbs. L left the bed unmade for me so I could take a nap, but that felt indolent at two in the afternoon. I just took an ice bath and now my entire lower body is quivering, not in the good way.
I had to remind myself that the training process actually will make me stronger. Today it felt like these longer runs merely sap the energy and power that I already have, draining me of what I will need to complete the marathon. Today I saw two runners in particular whose t-shirts resonated with me: the first,"Running sucks"; but then the second: "If you're still sweating, you're still alive." Amen to that.
Thursday, September 01, 2011
Status updates
Today I was walking along on the street when I inadvertently stepped on a Capri Sun juice thing on the ground, causing a stream of liquid to shoot through the straw and across some girl's thighs and butt. She was audibly shocked, and started gasping and looking around. I had to explain that I had stepped on a juice box, apologize profusely, and walk the hell away as fast as possible.
Also today I went to get a haircut, and the woman cutting my hair said to me, "How much do you want on top, well you don't have much on top, heh heh." Only women barbers say things like this. And yet I tipped her.
I didn't see much of L last weekend, because of the hurricane. And I haven't seen much of my family either, because work has been crazy. This is one of the most hectic weeks of the entire academic year, as we launch a new academic year and welcome the new students. There are moments when we participate in the life of the school community, when the students' youth and naivete erupts in moments of genuine enthusiasm and gratitude, that are actually quite moving. And then there are moments when I have pull back the reins on my irritation, such as when students march directly into my office without invitation and start talking at me, or when I receive an email from someone with a completely inscrutable email address who doesn't sign their message. "Who sent this email to me?" I replied back, before I could stop myself.
I have been a negligent marathon trainee, I regret to report. For the first time ever, I missed my long run last weekend because of hurricane-related childcare responsibilities. I only had time for one early-morning three mile run this week. And I don't know if I'll get in a long run this weekend. But then I will get back on track.
But tomorrow: we are packing up a rental car and driving to Rehoboth. A couple of days at the beach, a couple of days to introduce Alice to important things like Funland and Grotto Pizza and Browseabout Books. Jumping in the waves. Walking in the cool evening sand. The cry of the seagulls, ice cream on the boardwalk. It's important that she knows this.
Also today I went to get a haircut, and the woman cutting my hair said to me, "How much do you want on top, well you don't have much on top, heh heh." Only women barbers say things like this. And yet I tipped her.
I didn't see much of L last weekend, because of the hurricane. And I haven't seen much of my family either, because work has been crazy. This is one of the most hectic weeks of the entire academic year, as we launch a new academic year and welcome the new students. There are moments when we participate in the life of the school community, when the students' youth and naivete erupts in moments of genuine enthusiasm and gratitude, that are actually quite moving. And then there are moments when I have pull back the reins on my irritation, such as when students march directly into my office without invitation and start talking at me, or when I receive an email from someone with a completely inscrutable email address who doesn't sign their message. "Who sent this email to me?" I replied back, before I could stop myself.
I have been a negligent marathon trainee, I regret to report. For the first time ever, I missed my long run last weekend because of hurricane-related childcare responsibilities. I only had time for one early-morning three mile run this week. And I don't know if I'll get in a long run this weekend. But then I will get back on track.
But tomorrow: we are packing up a rental car and driving to Rehoboth. A couple of days at the beach, a couple of days to introduce Alice to important things like Funland and Grotto Pizza and Browseabout Books. Jumping in the waves. Walking in the cool evening sand. The cry of the seagulls, ice cream on the boardwalk. It's important that she knows this.
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